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Happy Face

posted Nov 15, 2016, 8:03 PM by Elaine Busby

Optimism may be something you come by naturally, but scientists now are saying optimism can - and should - be learned.
Being happy makes people flourish. On a cellular level. People who are happy have been shown to fend off sickness better than naysayers. And live longer. 
Haven't you heard the study done on nuns? They looked at profiles written by women who were applying to be nuns. Those who expressed positive thoughts about themselves and the work they were about to embark on were the ones who lived the longest. By years. 
Even if you are a naturally happy person you can work on upping your game. 
Have you laughed yet today?
Have you expressed gratitude for someone or something?
Did you participate in a random act of kindness? 
Set some daily happiness goals for yourself. Maybe it's as simple as taking the scenic route to work. Or as difficult as apologizing to your spouse. 
You don't have to look like a happy face emoji, but it has been proven that making yourself smile makes you feel better.
As the recovery community says, "Fake it 'til you make it". 
Now excuse me, I have to go finish watching Dana Carvey on Netflix. No faking needed to laugh at his jokes.

The Buz

posted Mar 7, 2015, 8:48 PM by Elaine Busby   [ updated Mar 7, 2015, 8:50 PM ]

Buz has been one of my few nicknames in life. Short for my maiden name, Busby. My dad was a full time "Buz", but it was not until I took a TV gig in Portland that fellow TV Host Paul Linnman started calling me "Buz" and even "The Buzzer" - on air. It fit. At that time. I loved knowing what was going on in town and being the first to share it. I specialized in "good news", i.e. feature reporting.
I feel I have drifted away from that moniker, and that side of my personality, until today when I attended a social media workshop in Portland. I've been reticent about social media. Concerned about image. About putting myself out there.
But I Iearned today that social media could and should be fun. That 50% of people on the planet are under 30. That more people today own a smart phone than a toothbrush. (ok, yuk!) However, FB, Twitter, Instagram (which my daughter lives on) and etc. are the way people interact today. And rather than fight it, have disdain or distrust for it, we need to embrace it. 
So I am going to find what interests me on social media.
And start a buzz. 

Gifts from the Spirit

posted Feb 7, 2015, 12:51 PM by Elaine Busby

So in my last post, I said my granddaughter would be here for "her own holiday". Little did I know how right I was in saying that.
She was late - very late, in fact. She skipped right over the solstice, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, her grandfather's birthday and even New Year's Eve. Apparently none of those holidays interested her. I thought she was completely out of holidays. Labor started on Jan. 5, and I thought, "Cool, 1-5-15, what a nice sounding date."
But it wasn't until she arrived on the 6th that I realized the holiday this little bundle had chosen: Epiphany. When the wise men find Jesus and honor him with gifts. 
She is our gift and we are honored to welcome Maya into the world. 
What gifts she will bring us!

Countdown to Christmas

posted Dec 10, 2014, 3:33 PM by Elaine Busby

Most people are counting the days to Christmas - shopping days, shipping days, school days. However, in our family this year we are counting down the days until a very special birthday - that of a grandchild. She is due on Christmas Day. 
Now this is a first child for my daughter-in-law, so chances are the baby will be late. If so, she might be born on her grandpa's birthday which is the 30th. The soon to be mother thinks the baby will be born early - on the solstice. My daughter thinks it will be Christmas Eve. 
You see, everyone in the family has a dollar bet going on the actual date - but its my belief that only the baby knows for sure.
As a parent, I have learned from my child that she came into the world on her own timetable. She knew when her soul wanted to start being on this planet. I didn't seem to have a thing to do with it.
So this baby might decide that Christmas Day is her day. 
We just don't know. We do know it's going to be a girl.
And she will be here for her own holiday....the best Christmas gift we could all ever ask for.

After the Influence

posted Dec 3, 2013, 10:05 AM by Elaine Busby

Quitting anything is hell. 
The first few days of my self-inflicted vegan attempts were not fun. I missed everything; cheese, meat, cheese, eggs, cheese, half and half...and did I mention cheese?!?
However, after about two weeks I mellowed out. The diet became easier, and my little pinkie finger, the one with a bit of arthritis, started improving. 
Cheese, however, was still an issue. Don't even think those cheese substitutes are worth trying. I tried the soy cheese, the almond can just substitute the word "rubber" for a preface on any of them. 
So I suffered. and not necessarily in silence.
Yet, after a stoic month of cleansing, I started modifying my "vegan" choices and found I can tolerate meat, sprinkled in dishes, and not as a main event. 
Eggs are fine, and the dairy alternatives are excellent. Soy and almond milk rock!
And I found out a little goat cheese is tolerable. This was the best news of all. 
So, after eliminating what most people consider to be the arthritic influences, and adding back a few appealing substitutes, I am happy to report that my hell is not heaven, but perhaps it is the  best haven I can create on this earth plane.
And, I have a happy pinkie finger to prove it.

Under the Influence

posted Sep 30, 2013, 8:35 PM by Elaine Busby

I am a big advocate for being very careful of what you put into yourself. Whether it is food or thoughts, I believe the positive or negative effects of either can affect your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well-being.

I am also a big believer in synchronicity – that people and places come into your life at the right time and place.

OK - you can call me gullible.

Or - willing to change.

So recently, I sat down at a banquet next to someone I did not know. The first thing I noticed was that I had a plate full of food, and he had an empty plate. As a fellow diner, I wanted to know why. The dinner looked yummy: fried chicken, mashed potatoes with bacon, beans with bacon and a nice salad with…you guessed it! Bacon.

Turns out this person was vegan. I put on my reporter hat and inquired what had prompted his decision. The answer was arthritis. His defining moment had been the movie, “Forks over Knives”, which touted a plant based diet as the answer to many of our modern day ailments. His suffering had been significantly reduced by through following a vegan diet.

Funny, but I had been suffering from arthritis in my dominant hand pinky finger, it was moving into my ring finger and I’ve had tendinitis in my right elbow for over a year.

Being easily under the influence of people who have a good story backed up by hard hitting documentaries, I am now trying the vegan lifestyle for at least two weeks.

Garbage in, garbage out?

More on my next blog…

Summer Daze

posted Aug 14, 2013, 5:15 PM by Elaine Busby

I love the play on words of this title, “Summer Daze”. It is exactly the mindset that begins to envelope my psyche once school is out, the weather warms up, and daylight lasts until 9PM – or later.

But just because its summer doesn’t mean there isn’t work to do – and sometimes even more: the yard needs watering and mowing, plants and vegetables require tending, and children must find ways to recreate.

The long days and hot temps would seem to give one more time to write.

But for me, it’s a festering, manic period.

Knowing that the cold weather will soon bite at my bones, I swerve from one activity to the next, cramming in as much summer as I possibly can.

By late August, back to school shopping, putting up vegetables for the winter and squeezing in one more outdoor activity or vacation still lures me away from the computer keyboard.

So, dear readers, we all know fall will arrive, as sure as my tomatoes will start staying green on the vine. I will bundle them all inside and hope a few turn red.

And that’s about the time I hope to be back blogging…and slogging in the rain. Yuk.

In the meantime, allow me (and yourself) a few more weeks of these wonderful summer “daze”.

Three reasons I like to read (and write) romance:

posted May 28, 2013, 9:08 PM by Elaine Busby

1.      As an astute reader of mine recently observed upon hearing I had a new book out: “I won’t need a dictionary to understand it!” As a very educated and cultured woman, this reader isn’t daunted by a dense fiction novel or classic. In fact, like me, I enjoy being challenged by a good book, and don’t mind having to refer to a dictionary now and then. But you have to admit, sometimes it is a drag. I didn’t take her comment as a put-down, rather I understood the essence of her angst, and joy upon release. Romance novels generally don’t require a dictionary to be understood. We write in everyday terms, about feelings we all share, but can’t always express. Give yourself a break from Webster.

2.      There’s nothing quite like armchair traveling in my estimation. Pick up a romance novel for a refreshing change of scenery. “On the Rocks” takes people from Seattle, Washington, to Marina Del Rey and Joshua Tree National Monument in California and finally to the shores of the Cinque Terre in Italy. Romance writers are known for taking readers on exciting travels – all for the small price of a book. It’s fun to leave town for the afternoon, and to take some of your favorite characters along with you.

3.      I’d be lying if I didn’t mention the romance. Not the sex, but the romance. There’s nothing like exploring someone else’s romantic liaisons to make you appreciate yours.  And with romance, the girl usually ends up getting the guy. After she’s done figuring herself out, and giving him the benefit of the doubt. A simple recipe for success with most relationships and worth modeling after. When the two finally fall in love, I fall in love all over again with my guy. When men start realizing this, romance novels will have a whole new following.

Those are my three top reasons for reading romance. And for writing it as well.  So take a break from the dictionary, cozy into your armchair for a bit of adventure, and remember to put the book down and kiss your companion goodnight. Then, you might have your own reasons for reading romance.

Let's ask the Author

posted Apr 18, 2013, 8:25 PM by Elaine Busby   [ updated Apr 18, 2013, 8:27 PM ]

 “How long does it take you to write a book?”

 As an author, this is a question I am commonly asked when I speak before groups or share more casually. Like many questions regarding writing, there are no simple answers.

There is the writing of the book….and then, there is the re-working of the book. For example, perhaps there was a plot twist that arrived in the 14th chapter, and you need to go back through the entire manuscript and make sure your facts add up. I’ve had that happen.

When you do get to the end of the book, then there is your first serious edit. This usually uncovers its own set of strange quirks. For instance, you might have called Jane’s best friend, Allison, in the first two chapters. Then Alyssa disappears for half the book, and when she comes back, you called her Allison. No, that’s when Allison disappears and you call her Alyssa. You get the drift!

I could elaborate on this topic of how long it takes to write a book, but let my short answer suffice; that it takes me about 5 years between initial start of the book until you see it in print. I just attended a lecture by author Robin Cody of “Ricochet River”, and he stated it took him 17 years to write that book. So even though I’m aiming for a shorter pen to publish time, not all authors – and not all books - are created equal.

Now, should I tackle the harder question, “How did you ever write a book?” Certainly there are tools, triggers and techniques authors use to write books. But a straight answer?

Maybe I’ll blog about that in five years – when my third book is published.

March Madness

posted Mar 23, 2013, 10:26 AM by Elaine Busby

This week, we have had sun, rain, hail and snow. Sometimes all within an hour. In fact, a few days ago, as I was driving to Portland, I encountered the nastiest hailstorm I had ever been through in my life. (keep in mind I am a west coast girl.)

I had left Hood River with my sunglasses on, coat discarded on the back seat of the car. Within ten miles, I was assaulted by what can only be described as the fury of the gods. A thick, dark cloud obstructed the sun. Then the hail arrived without warning. Red tails lights glowed from the truck in front of me, and I braked from 65 down to 40 miles an hour. This hail was being thrown at me, no, hurled at me from giant unseen hands. Double windshield wiper speed wasn’t enough to keep it cleared. I was the target for buckets of hail dumped on my car. I wanted to pull over, but with the limited vision and lack of a wide shoulder, it seemed safer to keep crawling, rather than be hit by an oncoming driver whose vision might be worse than mine.

Needless to say, this all passed with a five minute window. And by the time I arrived in Portland, the sun cracked the clouds open and beneath that massive yellow yolk, I was once again wearing sunglasses.

But I had passed through a violent demonstration of Mother Nature’s fury. Not a tsunami, not an earthquake, not a tornado. Just something edgy enough to remind me that I’m not in control.

“Madness” is the moniker we give this power in the month of March. As if the planet has gone mental. Yet this Earth has a purpose infinitely beyond human ken. And we are the ones who are unbalanced in its treatment.   

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